Full-frontal

 

 That's the paradox: the only time most people feel alive is when they're suffering, when something overwhelms their ordinary, careful armour, and the naked child is flung out onto the world. That's why the things that are worst to undergo are the best to remember.

 

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The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt ou caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn't love boldly enough, that they didn't invest enough heart, didn't love enough. Nothing else really counts at all.

                             Ted Hughes in a letter for his son Nicholas (1986)